1. What did I do in 2015 that I’ve never done before?
I handled a mediation solo – several, actually. I got a new firm job and quit the old one. And I started to feel somewhat confident in my abilities as a lawyer, at last – they all said it would happen in the fourth year, and lo and behold here we are.
2. Did you keep your resolutions?
Largely, the answer is No. They were ambitious, considering the job and the oft-absent husband. However, I did pursue this move to NOLA to make life more enjoyable, and give me room to do these things that I wanted to do in 2015 and still want to do this year. My exercise was scant – I love to work out, but it basically can’t be done with 3 little boys and no one to watch them (also caring for them alone plus job means exhaustion, leaving little energy left for anything at all). I did improve our diets somewhat, but did not do the massages, yoga, more-frequent haircuts . . . with two households and student loans, money remained tight, but I’m hopeful it will loosen up this year. I did not read the books I want to read, but I did get a kindle for Christmas this year and hope to make it easier to read for pleasure. I didn’t do any of the spirit goals – blerg.
I did accomplish a few things – added to the kids’ chores, I hand-wrote letters to people as part of a Lent project, I joined a local book club (that never met bc the ladies kept canceling, but I did join!) Billing requirements (UGH) meant I was unable to work on the professional development I’d hoped for, but the new firm seems more keen to develop associates, so we’ll see. And I did much more volunteer work, as I’d intended – I’m proud of my involvement there.
3. What new lives brought you joy?
Hannah Beatrice, niece who has stolen my heart! I got to meet her in a quick 24 hour trip a few days ago, and she was just as sweet and tiny a beab as ever lived. She has my heart.
4. For whom did you grieve, if anyone?
Within a few days of one another, my little buddy Lachlan and my husband’s grandfather both passed away last spring. Two very different lives, one very long and one very short, both ended by cancer.
5. Did you travel anywhere exciting?
I went to North Carolina twice, both trips for Tiny Beab – one was to attend her mother’s baby shower, and one to meet her all born and good-smelling and sweet – less than 24 hours, squeezed in just before the move. We also had friends travel to visit us for Easter, which was quite lovely. We spent time with both sets of grandparents – two weeks in Nashville over the 4th of July, and then two weeks with the other set in South Carolina over Christmas (I was only there a few days, but the littlest boys were there 2 weeks while we were homeless and then moving in). That’s it. Having a 1 year old makes you boring. Having a 2 year old also makes you boring. So what I’m saying is bring on 2017!! Perhaps we shall travel more then!
6. What would you like to have in 2016 that you lacked in 2015?
I’d like to have in 2016 what I had in 2015 – which is to say, a house, which I no longer have as of December 18.
7. What are your most memorable moments of 2015?
Baseball practice and games, generally. The segue into the elementary school years has been a fun one.
Easter visits from Vern, Michelle, and Savannah.
The early hours of a May morning, when I learned Lachlan had died.
Summertime movie in the park – Big Hero Six, and Liam fell asleep.
Playing basketball with Jack on the driveway.
Sitting in the backyard with the wading pool set up, my sister and her husband visiting, boys splashing.
Berry picking with the boys in Nashville.
Going to the Nashville zoo with the boys and my mom.
My sister’s baby shower, and my dad’s recently-operated-upon foot wrapped in a pink cast in honor of tiny beab.
A lemonade (orange juice) stand with Jack, to raise money to buy new glasses after Craig broke his old ones.
The boys’ fall festival
The Halloween jazz half marathon.
Halloween with the minions.
The day Hannah was born.
Hosting Thanksgiving – what a great day, with most of my family in attendance.
Christmas with the in-laws.
8. What was your bravest moment and/or biggest achievement of the year?
Getting a new job and deciding to leave Alabama. Stay tuned for whether that turns out to be a good move or not. [insert nervous-looking emoji]
9. What was your biggest failure and/or disappointment?
I am so super fat right now guys. My clothes do not fit – I bought some fat clothes and very shortly, they also got too tight. Much work on this to come.
10. Any memorable lapses in wellness? (Illness, injury, etc.?)
Jack sprained his pinky. Woo woo. I’m not complaining that this is basically the height of our lack of health this year.
11. Where did most of your money go?
This move has been pretty expensive, I must say.
12. Is there a song or pop culture moment that will forever remind you of 2015?
13. Compared to this time last year are you (a) happier or sadder? (b) heavier or lighter? (c) richer or poorer?
(a) weeeellllll – more anxious, for sure, given the move.
(b) heavier. see no. 9. I have an appointment with the endocrinologist, just in case the old thyroid can be blamed.
(c) we will make more but also spend more since NOLA is more expensive, so I don’t know how to answer this one.
14. How did you spend (a) Mardi Gras, (b) Easter, (c) Fourth of July, (d) Thanksgiving, (e) Christmas, and (f) New Years’ Eve?
(a) We did the usual – a party for parades in Fairhope early in the season, a few local parades, Mardi Gras weekend parades in NOLA (b) NC friends came to visit and it was the bomb (c) Fourth in Nashville, but I don’t think we went anywhere given the Prof was out of town and the Dad was laid up w/foot surgery. (d) Thanksgiving at my place! Our home’s last hurrah before the sale. (e) Christmas with the in-laws in SC, very wonderful. (f) NYE here in NOLA, will happen in a few short hours – I can hear the fireworks already.
15. Any new loves/friends/positive forces in your life?
No which is partly why we moved.
16. What was your favorite tv and/or movie?
I am positive that Star Wars will be my favorite movie if I can get myself out there to see it. Also liked Master of None.
17. What was your favorite book?
I read almost zero books, what a tragedy. I did enjoy Ruthless, by Carolyn Lee Adams.
18. What did you want and get?
19. What did you want and not get?
A million dollars
20. What did you do on your 37th birthday?
The Prof was out of town, but my parents were in town and my mother made me dinner. As I recall it was One of Those Days at work, exceedingly stressful with partner demands of immediate responses, plus the kids had a thing (baseball? something). So it was more stressful than I like, but so it goes.
21. Anything notable in your fashion or appearance in 2015?
I bought some bigger sizes and promptly grew out of them. We shall reverse this trend this year.
22. What kept you sane?
A less eager to please attitude at work, to be honest.
23. Anything in the political arena you care to recall?
UGH, no. Horrible behavior this year.
24. Who did you miss?
Far flung friends and family.
25. Closing remarks? Life lessons/morals/catch phrases, etc.?
My phrase of the year is probably, depressingly, “my back hurts.” 😉